If you’re a mother and always yell at your child, you can free your mind and don’t have to feel guilty. Your children can be a success people in their life thanks to your complains.
In a study claimed by the University of Essex that daughters whose mothers usually nagged them during teenage tended to be more successful than those with gentle moms.
Is it true? The angry mom looks you’ve had to shoot across the house. The reminders, conflicts, arguments, and harassment you’ve gone. Snarky mumbles and comments you endured are all worth it.
The study has referred at the lives of over 15,000 13 and 14-year-old teenage girls for 6 years. Results concluded that young ladies who had a main parent (usually the mother) that stayed on top of them about chores, school, and responsibilities were more commonly to go to university and have a high salary.
They were also less likely to be pregnant as teens. The “nagging” doesn’t always come in the form that you think but has more to do with setting persistent expectations as a parent. One of the things found during the research that you may find shocking is that kids are listening even when you think they are not.
Lead researcher Ericka G. Rascon-Ramirez confirmed that no matter what, parents influence decision-making:
“In many situations, we succeeded in doing what we believed was more convenient for us, even when this was against our parents’ expectation. But no matter how hard we tried to avoid our parents’ advices, it is seemly that they ended up influencing, in a more subtle manner, choices that we had considered highly personal.”
What parents create as standards takes root in the minds of their children seems to be subconsciously. In some way, the push back and other typical teenage reactions we receive act as a mask. They don’t usually like hearing it, but it works!
Researchers also known that many of the strides were seen among girls who weren’t the best students but had tough or “pushy” moms. This style of parenting can reduce the pregnancy rate of teenagers by 4%, which is fairly high (though falling) in Britain and the US.
Alerting them about having babies early, a poor work ethic, and low grades can inform their choices from an early age and prepare them for long-term success opportunities. In spite of annoying, unsolicited therapist has its own benefits.
Moms: while we may feel like being tuned, disrespected, or arrogating, know that there are benefits to our insanity. Sometimes you may hear your mother’s voice (and father’s as well) telling you of what to do or what not to do. It never stops, doesn’t it?
Just stop saying the old sentence “I told you” and avoid gloating about the mistakes of your kid. Motivation and helpful “nagging” is more likely to lead your girls down a successful path.
Would you think the information in this study were important in your own life? So does nagging really work? May be you had your own answer for these question.